Billy said his ex-wife hated sex, and told Rosa about how much he loved to roll around on the floor with a woman. After that, he complimented her legs and breasts, and said she seemed strong.
Rosa is a 56-year-old buyer who lives in
Aurora. She says, “My style is ‘classic, casual and chic.’” Rosa
describes herself as “happy, nurturing, a good listener, friendly and
stubborn” and says she likes to “walk, shop, volunteer, cook, bake, and
spend time with my kids and their significant others.” Rosa is looking
for someone who is “funny, interested in spending time with family,
likes to travel, not cheap, healthy and in reasonably good physical
condition.” She says, “I have had a lot of success meeting men online,
but I’m still searching for that ‘special someone,’ as they say.”
I signed up for online dating after my
divorce. Right away, I started getting a lot of messages from men. Billy
and I met online, and he seemed like a good prospect. He was definitely
one of the best options, as far as I could tell. I liked the fact that
he lived near me, and seemed to be a hard worker and family oriented. We
also seemed to have some common interests, which was nice. We agreed to
meet at a local coffee shop on a Friday night.
After eating a light dinner, I got myself all
gussied up for my first date in over 30 years. As I was about to leave
the house, I received a text from Billy saying he would be delayed for
an hour. When I arrived at the coffee shop at the new time, I actually
ended up waiting outside for another 10 minutes until he showed up. So
far, he wasn’t living up to expectations.
Billy looked dishevelled when he arrived, in
baggy pants and a scruffy windbreaker. We shook hands. He told me that
he hadn’t had time to eat dinner, and wanted to get something at the
strip-mall nearby. There was only one place, so we headed in. There I
was, a 50-something woman, on her first date since her divorce, under
the harsh lighting of a fast-food joint.
I stood there as Billy ordered and sat across
from him while he wolfed down his food, all the while texting with his
kids. He didn’t apologize to me about how late he was, or about the
change in plans, and didn’t make an effort to engage with me very much.
My stomach was nervous to begin with, and the smell of the restaurant
absolutely nauseated me. Once he finished eating, we finally proceeded
to the coffee shop. He didn’t want coffee, so I got one and we sat down.
The conversation was awful. He told me that
his ex-wife had hated sex, and about how much he loved to roll around on
the floor with a woman. After telling me this, he looked me over and
complimented my legs and breasts, and said that I seemed “strong,” and
would be fun to roll around with. I told him that he would never have
the chance to find out. It was very uncomfortable.
I have to say, I was shocked and dismayed that
this was the new world of dating. I wasn’t sure if it was going to work
for me. Was Billy an example of a typical man in his 50s? I think one
of the downfalls of online dating is that because you don’t meet through
friends or work or a shared activity, there’s no real accountability
for your actions. Maybe Billy seemed to say whatever he wanted to say
because it was all so anonymous.
I went home after an hour, and had a glass of wine and thought about how it might not be that bad to be alone.
Rosa rates her date (out of 10): 1
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